First, my apologies, y’all. My Ron Clark Academy post is forthcoming because, believe me, it was awesome.
But that’s not what I’m going to talk about tonight. Soon, but not tonight.
Tonight, I need advice (as per usual).
Today I had an incident that I’m not sure how to handle.
I was taking my block 4 class of 7th graders to the library. On the way, we passed the vice principal’s office, where G, an 8th grader, was waiting outside, presumably for some sort of disciplinary action. As we passed, I stopped near G to take stock of the class and get everyone quiet before we headed down the hall. One of my students, A, started laughing, like, a lot. I squelched it pretty quick and we went on to the library.
Later, back in my classroom, the students were reading in pairs. A stopped working with his partner and approached me. He said, “Do you want me to tell you what I was laughing at earlier?” I said, “If you want to,” with a little shrug. He then told me that he was laughing because G had pretended to cup my ass and licked his lips as I stopped by him.
I got onto A for laughing about it but also thanked him for being so honest with me about it. I mean, he obviously felt bad enough about it that he felt like he needed to confess it.
But now I’m not sure what to do about G. The whole thing makes me feel really icky, but I’m not sure if I should refer him or just let it go. On the one hand, his behavior was disgusting, and on the other, I worry about the additional problems this could create. My school is very tiny; I teach all 150 of the junior high students. Word spreads fast about EVERYTHING. So I don’t know how worth it it would be to say something to administration about something I didn’t actually see and only have one kid’s word on.
So what do you think?
Reblog and tells us something that you love about yourself!
- I love me lips. People used to make fun of me and call me Angelina Jolie, but I never took it as an insult. They’re huge and I love it! More lipstick, please!
My eyes are, like, super blue, and I love them. I also make some really good Christmas cookies.
You are a part of someone’s day every day. Make your interactions positive if you can.
I know it’s hard because for some reason teachers are expected to be blank emotionless beings who have no life outside of school, so most students and parents don’t understand that sometimes we have bad days, too. Most of them don’t ask, don’t care—only want to complete their own agendas. They don’t care if your own grandparent is in the hospital; they don’t care how late you were up or why; they don’t want to hear about how the internet is out at home and that’s why you couldn’t respond to emails; they certainly don’t have ears listening for illnesses or pharmacy runs or doctors’ appointments. Those are for non-teachers. They expect you do take care of certain tasks because it’s expected of you every day. They march in, expecting you to be Teacher, not Caregiver or Daughter or Patient—just Teacher.
Just try to remember that you matter. Sometimes you are the person on the receiving end: criticism after criticism, “failure” after disappointment…but sometimes our students are on the receiving end. “Tuck in your shirt” followed by “Don’t be late” and a “Tie your shoes!” and “Where is your late work?” for good measure.
Change that cycle. A simple “Hey, John,” can change it. Because we are human, we make mistakes. Sometimes our minds wander to our own families, our own financial situations or responsibilities. But if you can—be positive. You never know how much difference it can make.